I used to work with a woman who could easily be mistaken for the actress Sela Ward’s sister. She was tall, statuesque even; with warm naturally shadowed eyes, a wide, sensual mouth, an engaging laugh and generous curves. I happen to love the way Sela Ward looks – the personification of the sexy grown up retailers foolishly ignore even though she’s the woman men and women always notice the moment she enters into a room.One day, when my colleague’s teenage son came to the office since she had agreed to help him pick out an “interview” suit, I asked if his friends ever commented about his mom’s good looks. He stared at me as if I had asked him to live on the dark side of the moon. “No!” he snapped. “So you don’t think your mom’s attractive?” I asked. “I don’t know!” he replied, his voice going up an octave. “She’s just my mom, that’s all,” and he left abruptly in search of a Diet Coke or a therapist.
Oddly enough, when the woman’s lovely teenage daughter, whom she resembles, came in two days later, her reply wasn’t very different. “Oh, I can’t go there. Please, no. I just can’t.”
So when it comes to buying gifts for Mother’s Day, I have to ask all you sons and daughters what is that you see when you look at Mom? A buddy? The disciplinarian? A combo chauffeur, cook, and warm, wise all-knowing confidante but whose femininity you negate even though without it you wouldn’t be here?
You do realize that your mom loves to look great and pays attention to style, just like you do? And your mom would love nothing better than to be recognized for the love and emotion, the heart and the nurturing that she expends on you every day. So when you buy her a gift, forgo the Vitamix G-series, the nail spa gift certificate, or even rhododendron bush to replace the one that died in the backyard last fall.
Instead, buy Mom something catch-her-breath beautiful that sparkles almost as brightly as her eyes when she sees you, or that makes her fingers, or neck or whole body tingle with the thrill of being alive. When you choose a piece of Gabriel’s alluring but accessible Fine Jewelry Everyday Collection, you’re reminding mom that you acknowledge and even relish the revelation that she is more than just a parent. She’s a woman – and really cool at that – too.
As for any husbands who may be reading this, you are not off the hook either. Forget that lame “mother of your children” gift criteria. Think of Mother’s Day as Valentine’s Day #2, which means that if you hit the mark with jewelry in February, isn’t it to your advantage to stay on a roll? And should you have botched that one up by giving her a Roomba or a bath soap and a loofah, here’s one more chance to make things right. Get your woman something simply beautiful. In fact, I’ll even make this easy for the whole family – here are six surefire suggestions.
And trust me, you can go here. You just can.
In fact, you better. Happy Mother’s Day.